So, as you know I just started a new relationship and it kinda shows a lot of resemblance to a rollercoaster. Maybe it’s the fact that we’re in our 30’s and we already know what we want in life, maybe it has to do with the way we got to know each other before we actually got together. Don’t know, but do I really care? NAH!!
A few weeks ago we got talking about how much energy we waste on our current situation. Every week we sort of decide when or where we are spending our time together, moving stuff around from one house to another and always feeling like it’s a waste of energy. For instance, when I’m at his place my cleaning and laundry needs to get done during the week or doesn’t get done at all. When he’s at my place that means the samen thing happens at his place.
So, yes, we’re only together for about 2 months, but we’re planning to start looking for apartments in January. Since I don’t want to live in his town and he doesn’t want to live in mine, we’re going to search for new apartments in a city nearby that has better public transport for him (his demand) and still close to the motorway (my demand).
It’s kinda scary as well, since we’re both used to living on our own and we have been doing this both for 10+ years. Because of this we have a lot of stuff that is either double or needs replacing. The next few months we will be focussing on cleaning out (mostly his), saving up, determining what we want to keep and stuff we’re going to need.
We’re talking a lot about what stuff we are keeping and which stuff can go. What I’ve learned so far is that I’m not attached to my stuff. We think this has to do with the fact that I’ve moved a lot over the last few years and he’s been living in the same house for the last 10 years and because of this he has a lot more stuff. He’s also the kind of guy that doens’t want to trow out stuff when it’s not broken. I’m trying to convince him that there are loads of ways to get rid of stuff we both have without trowing them out. Facebook has pages where you can put up things you no longer need or websites where you can post stuff. This way, I’m hoping we’re not ending up with 4 frying pans we’re not using since we already have 2. But we’ll see how that goes.
Now, if you don’t mind, I’m spending the rest of my Friday on Pinterest, looking for all the things I would love but:
- Aren’t practical in a rental or any normal house tbh
- Are to freaking expensive
- Aren’t practical.
Odds are, we’ll move our things together in one place and see how it goes from there.